How to get RESULTS you want
Have you been observing yourself lately? Have you stopped to really see what you're thinking, feeling, and doing? What have you learned?
RESULTS are the effect of
ACTIONS motivated by
FEELINGS generated by
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Your results are not dependent on your circumstances. We like to blame our circumstances when we don't like our results. We may even humbly credit our circumstances when we achieve success. But if circumstances = results, then we wouldn't have Cinderella stories.
Everyone loves a good Cinderella story.
Why is that? Because deep down we know the truth: that our results are not determined by our circumstances.
Does Cinderella get to the ball by sheer grit? No. She changes her thoughts. She dares to think that she deserves to go.
When you’re not getting the results you want, something needs to change. That something is your thoughts. And if your actions or feelings need to change, you need to think different thoughts to get there.
And if you want to create results intentionally, you need to figure out what feelings and actions come from the thoughts you have.
If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always gotten.
Do you like the results you’re getting? If not, it’s time to make a change. Change your actions, yes. But that’s hard to do without a feeling, which is hard to conjure without a THOUGHT.
Are you sick of this yet? I'm preaching it to myself every day. RESULTS start with THOUGHTS.
This is what coaching is for. Helping you identify what is holding you back and how to make that shift so you can live a life you love.
One of the most common reasons people who are interested in personal development do not hire a coach is because they say they can do it themselves - coach themselves. And they CAN and SHOULD! But do they actually DO it? And what results are they getting?
You can consume books and podcasts and workshops all the live-long day, but if you’re not getting real results, it’s time to do something different. THINK something different.
Go get some new results this week!
P.S. If you're ready to get serious about seeing yourself, owning your power, and changing your life, I would LOVE to work with you. Simply send me an email and we can schedule a free one-hour phone consult to talk about where you are, where you want to be, and how you can get from here to there.
*This concept is not new, but I must credit Brooke Castillo at The Life Coach School for the CTFAR acronym which she refers to as the Self-Coaching Model (used with permission), and for introducing it in a way that finally made sense to me.
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Monica Gill is a life coach and image consultant in Milwaukee, Wisconsin.